Breaking Through Driving Anxiety – Before we dive right into things, let me take a step back and explain what this lesson series is all about, what I hope to accomplish, and why you should be absolutely ITCHING to read this lesson every day…
When I was struggling with driving anxiety and panic, I saw a bunch of therapists, read a ton of driving anxiety’s books, and tried everything under the sun to feel better.
Now I’m not going to lie to you and say it was all useless and only the Driving Fear Program can help, not at all. In fact, I think the more information and knowledge you have about your anxiety the better. Some of what I read was somewhat useful, and none of the therapists I saw were mean people trying to do me harm, but I never really knew if I was making progress… going forward, backward, or staying the same… and it drove me bonkers.
See, obviously, at that time, I wasn’t the “driving anxiety expert” that I am now. I didn’t write books and programs, and my phone wasn’t ringing with an interview request, that’s for sure. I was just a regular guy with a regular job…well…a regular guy with unbearable anxiety is more precise.
But what I think made the approach most people and programs have when treating anxiety so hard for me to swallow, was what I did for a living. I was a fitness trainer, sort of a performance coach, for some pretty advanced athletes. I gave training advice and strategies to athletes all over the country, even world record holders, and to be honest, I was pretty competitive myself.
Athletes at this level turn out to be a demanding bunch. They don’t want to just be “motivated” or to hear about the latest theory, they want MEASURABLE RESULTS. Anything else was useless.
A world class runner isn’t interested in hearing about some new study, or in being inspired…they want to run faster, period.
A swimmer looks at the clock at the end of the pool and knows immediately if what I’m doing with them is working or not.
Results are measured. And I was held accountable. If I didn’t deliver lasting results, I wasn’t around long.
This being my “standard”, you can imagine that the viewpoint of most anxiety or phobia treatment approaches were a little “unusual” to me to say the least.
Most of the books and programs I tried, and therapists I visited, wanted me to “think positive” and repeat affirmations and other “feel good” techniques. I’ll be honest with you, sometimes after repeating how wonderful I was for a thousand times, I would feel a little better. Sometimes after a particularly good chapter in one of the books or a good session with my shrink, I would feel inspired and hopeful again.
But it never lasted.
Maybe it was because I was held to a much different standard regarding results, but to me, just feeling a little better temporarily wasn’t good enough. I didn’t want to just FEEL different – I wanted to BE different “Ã¢â‚¬Å“ to improve.
And that’s the first thing I learned about treating anxiety, and what I demand from my Program:
Your Driving Anxiety Treatment Should Yield Real, Measurable, and Lasting Results
Much of what you’ll find available for treating anxiety or phobias treatment, isn’t in my eyes a treatment at all, but a bandage that falls off before your wound heals.
It’s designed to help you feel better in the short term, but nothing REALLY changes. You may feel better when you leave the psychologists office, but the next day…anxiety returns. You may feel full of renewed hope after doing your affirmations, but later that day…WHAM!… panic attacks.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying it’s bad to feel hopeful or inspired, or even that affirmations are useless, not at all. But what I am saying is that they should be used as TOOLS, small pieces of a bigger, more powerful approach, and not relied on by themselves.
Your expectations of your treatment should be no less than a world class athlete had for me… heck… even MORE demanding… How to overcome your anxiety is much more important than running a faster marathon or lifting a heavier weight.
I don’t think you should judge results based upon how you FEEL, I think you should base your judgment on what you can DO and how much your life changes.
If you used to panic when driving more than 50 miles from home, or would avoid it completely, can you do it now? If yes, fantastic. If not, there’s a problem.
If you used to be anxious when sitting in traffic, or while crossing a bridge, or when on the highway, has that improved? If yes, keep doing what you’re doing. If not, it’s time to pause and made some decisions…
When you start the Driving Fear Program, you might be a little surprised that one of the first thing’s we’ll do together is figuring out what it is you want to be able to do…who you want to be. I want you to have a RESULT in mind…a goal…a way to measure progress, so you can ask yourself if you’re getting closer to that goal or further away.
Sure, it would be wonderful if you felt great during your time with the Program too, and at times you will, but I’ll be honest, at other times, you probably won’t. I’m ok with that. I’m willing to sacrifice feeling good for a few hours if it ultimately changes your life for years or decades. I’ll take long term fulfillment over short term feelings of false hope or inspiration every time.
Of course, you have to give things time, don’t get me wrong. Treating something as ingrained and complex as driving anxiety takes time, and you have to be patient. Nothing is going to happen overnight, but in time, you need to move in the right direction and get closer to the finish line.
That’s what makes the Driving Fear Program so different and unique, and I think it’s because I actually went through a life of anxiety and panic and came out the other side, so I understand what you’re going through and know that it can be overcome. You’ll be hard pressed to find another program that starts out saying, “Hold me accountable. Get results or get a refund.” – but that’s the way I’d want it to be if I were the one going through the Program, and I don’t expect you to demand any less. That’s a big reason why I offer the outrageous guarantee I do, to put my money where my mouth is. If I don’t deliver, I don’t get paid…period.
Whew…sorry if that was a long ramble, but I think it’s really important that you understand my perspective because I realize it’s different and not for everyone. Some people just want to be held, snuggled, and told everything will be ok, and if that’s you, it’s nothing to be ashamed about, but it’s not how I do things here.
But if you’re tired of only FEELING better temporarily and want to actually BE BETTER, I think you’re in the right place.
Be sure to keep your eyes peeled for my email tomorrow because I’m going to talk to you about another HUGE thing you need to be aware of and stay on the lookout for.
If you’ve heard enough and want to get started with the Program right away, you’ll only see results that much quicker, just go here to read the details and order.